My fiance always took pride on how tidy his bedroom was and how hard he works to keep things well organized. But despite his efforts, I still feel a sense of ordered chaos whenever I enter his room.

He kept a lot of toys, basketball memorabilia, brightly colored caps, packages and boxes from numerous gadgets etc. There were a lot of items in the room that demanded attention. It's so distracting that it overpowers the tidiness of the room altogether.

This got me thinking: What is the difference between a common organized room (example: my fiance's bedroom) and the 'ideal type room' (example: a room from a five star hotel).

The answer is in the minute details. Does each item in the room serve a specific purpose? Do the items blend well with the theme of the room?

Now, if these colorful things bring joy and fulfillment to you, there is nothing wrong with that. But a lot of times we accumulate little things we don't even need just to satisfy the urge to buy. You know, things you think that might be useful someday. A shirt that doesn't fit well. Items that we haven't used for ages. These things add up little by little.

We sometimes forget that 15 pairs of shoes stacked neatly in a shoe rack, will still look like 15 pairs of shoes. At the end of the day organized clutter is still clutter.

It is a point which is commonly overlooked because we just become so accustomed to seeing all those stuff. But what we don't realize is that 'those stuff' still affect and our energy and mood whenever we are in that space. Sometimes we feel like our stuff owns us, and not the other way around.

Take for example, Do you have a big box in your house that is neatly placed on top of a cabinet or underneath a table? Unknowingly, it becomes the central focal part of a room. A part of you want to discard it, but something is telling you to hold on to it because it might be useful one day, It is that feeling of helplessness that often leaves me emotionally drained. And I am sure everyone had felt this way one at least once in their life.

To avoid this scenario in my personal space I ask myself this simple question for each item I wish to discard (taken from the KonMari method): "Does this item spark joy?"